Why I'm Not Dating

Hey guys! How are you today?

As I have recently entered high school, my exposure to teen dating has sky rocketed, and I am not sure I'm absolutely enjoying it. Some kids just don't know how to treat each other right!
I don't have any experience in dating, but please don't think that I am writing this post because "I'm mad that I can't get any guys" or something. That is not true. Neither am I judging anyone who has decided to date as a young teen. I'm writing my opinion, which is absolutely open for discussion in the comments! I would love to hear from you guys

Here we go!

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I believe the ultimate goal of dating is finding your spouse

I absolutely know people that do not intend to get married, and just want a boyfriend for their whole life. For fun. Though I don't quite understand all of that, I don't think it's really what dating is meant for. My perspective (coming from a Christian background) is that dating is meant for finding your spouse, and being able to share that relationship together with Christ.
You don't often hear a married person say "I am so glad I dated around in middle school/high school, it has really helped my marriage a lot!" What I HAVE heard more often is "I found my first love in high school. He was my soul mate and we promised ourselves to each other, until he cruelly broke my heart for no apparent reason."
Don't get me wrong, I have heard those beautiful stories about high school sweethearts, like my parents for instance! They have been married for almost 18 years and still celebrate their dating anniversary! But the stats don't lie, folks, most teen relationships don't make it and end up in heart break. Not everyone turns out like Cory and Topanga. Besides that, I am trying to think ahead and not have a super long list of exes to explain to my future husband.

Via gifsgallery.com

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I am too lazy for drama OR I have better things to do
Hey. I have attended high school for exactly seven days and I have already figured out that I don't have time or energy to commit to a relationship or even attract a boy. Sometimes just seeing the kids around me get heart broken wears me out. I have decided for myself that when I am this young and this hormonal, putting my relationship with God first will be much more beneficial to me and my future. Plus, I still have to wake up by at least 6:30 each day, finish all my homework, be civil to other humans, and balance a whole bunch of other stuff (which I talked about in my last post)!!
Being super emotionally committed to a boy at this point in time could possibly tip the scale and I'm not much of a risk taker. Yes, I have seen other people be somewhat successful in that balancing act.
But there is SO MUCH ELSE TO THINK ABOUT.
In this day and age, texting someone you find cute is apparently a group effort. The response to his text must be perfectly flirty AAAND hard to get but not too hard because you certainly won't friend zone him but still not come across as too desperate/clingy
"k"
*cries*

GUYS THIS IS FROM WIKIHOW WHAT HAS THIS WORLD COME TO

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I don't want to be tempted
Now you may ridicule me. Your parents have probably said this at some point, but seriously, I don't want to put myself in a spot where I will be physically tempted. Like I mentioned earlier, I don't want a list of things to explain to my future husband, even if it isn't "that bad" by other people's standards.
 I'm just cutting it all out. Please understand

Via AHAHAHA ok this one gets me everytime

I don't think it's cool when kids are twerking all over each other at the school dance, or anywhere for that matter but ahahaha that pic is funny. I'm not that weird
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Maturity.
I don't know about you but fourteen year olds don't have the best reputation for being super mature or having the best judgement. And this is coming from a fourteen year old. Last time I checked, committing yourself to another human being requires a whole lot of that maturity thing. I just leave it there
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This is one of the ways I have decided to be a girl without shame. One girl who doesn't care if the other kids think it's weird she doesn't have a boyfriend, or any interest in getting one. No shame

Via twitter.com

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As a bonus, here are a few Bible verses about dating :) If you are interested, click the links to read them!
2 Corinthians 6:14-18
Proverbs 4:23
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Ephesians 4:2
Colossians 3:14
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That's all I've got for the time being, please please share your opinion in the comments, I would absolutely love to hear it! Also, I will re-stress this. I AM NOT JUDGING YOU IF YOU HAVE DECIDED TO DATE AS A TEENAGER. WE ARE STILL FRIENDS RIGHT?
Hopefully you found this interesting :)
Have a great day
Love,
Brenna, girl without shame ♥

time for a new look!

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Hi guys! It's me, Brenna the Bad Blogger. If you haven't noticed, I've just began a new construction process and so I guess I'm not really a bad blogger anymore. I'm a girl without shame :)

The story behind my new title is really simple.

I've been teaching myself how to be myself around everyone, and not change to look better for certain people. Especially now that I am entering high school, I think it is an important thing to learn. 

Hopefully you are ok with the change, and won't forget that I'm still the same Brenna that was here 20 minutes ago when I changed the URL 

Also, if anyone has skills in the graphic design department and would like to design my blog for me (since I don't know anything about that stuff), then I would LOOOVE to pay you in multitudes of shout outs and buttons in my side bar. I'm specifically looking for a header and a new button. And anything else if you are up to it hahaha! 

Thank you to my followers for reading what I write, and I try to improve everyday, just for you!

Live without shame today 

-Breeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Teen Summer Tag

Now that summer has started for real for me, I've decided to make a tag! If you get tagged, answer the questions and tag more people!

1. Is it summer where you live?
Yes!
2. What is your favorite part of the summer-time?
Being able to breathe. In my bed. Instead of at school.
3. Do you have any summer traditions?
I used to go to my best friend's house every Thursday and swim in the lake at her house, but I've moved away now, so I guess I need to make some new ones!
4. Name your number one summer song, ready go!
Pineapple Princess by Annette Funicello
5. What is your most memorable memory of the summer, ever?
Probably spending my summers at the lake with Julia :) I miss you girl. See her blog here
6. One blog you currently can't get enough of!
Definitley Reckless or Clover & Dot
7. Give your top blogging tip, even if you're a newbie. What do you want people to know?
If you don't like blogging at all, stick with it just a little longer but if you just can't, then don't. Do things that you enjoy. I blog because I love it and I need a regular creativity outlet, and this is a reliable place to spill!
8. If you could travel anywhere this summer, where would it be and why?
Apart from back home, I would visit Europe and see all the touristy things, and then some. See the real European country sides. :)
9. What is your favorite accessory to wear in the warm weather?
Well, in the nicer days I like to dress up in flowy clothes and accent necklaces/bracelets are always fun, so definitley those! I have a silver anchor necklace that I really love to wear.
10.  Set one goal to challenge yourself this summer. 
I am going to fill a whole notebook/journal with doodles, quotes and to-dos. I swear!

Now tag as many people as you want! Anybody can do this---Feel free to do this and please post the picture with it. But specifically I tag the following blogs-

The Teenage Puzzle

Super Swankified

A Little Bit of Sunshine

Star Girl Productions

Self Known
Vivian Ines

Creative Blogger Award!

Hello!
A while ago, Archie, over at A Bundle of Contradictions, nominated me for the Creative Blogger Award. Little did I know, when you are nominated, you post five facts about yourself and then tag 5 more bloggers you follow.

So Archie, I'm sorry I am so late, but here is this post, dedicated to you ;) Everyone please go check out her blog. She is so philosophical and mature and I hope that someday I can write like her!
Here are my 5 facts!

1. I started my first blog when I was 10 years old called Brenna's Booklist. I guess I'm not very creative when it comes to names XD. But since then, I have 4 others, including this one, and 2 of them are with some good friends of mine. Sadly, only this one is active at the moment. 
2. According to my parents, I have always tried to change my name. Most people, when reading my name, automatically insert an 'a' to make Breanna, and that always got on my nerves. I guess I've always tried to be change it, and maybe that is why I like acting so much! I remember one day I had to go to a craft camp with some of my friends and I wore my hair slightly crimped, and I was so excited because I thought people wouldn't be able to recognize me! I was going to tell them my name was Alice and it was going to be so fun, but I walked in and they were all, "Hey Brenna!" That was the end of that.
3. I have changed schools a lot! If you count Pre-Kindergarten, I've gone to 1 Pre-K, 1 normal Kindergarten, 2 elementary schools, 2 middle schools and most likely 2 high schools. Oddly enough, I haven't ever really felt like an outcast when I go to a new school. The feeling of being new ends pretty quickly once you make yourself comfortable, instead of waiting for someone else to make you comfortable. 
4. I am secretly obsessed with flowers and plants. I don't know when or how it started, but I just love flowers! In my room right now I have my baby, my moon cactus and a small bouquet of tulips from my show last night. And multiple drawings and paintings of flowers. What's happening to me. I'm turning hippie! 
5. Speaking of hippie, my class at school has a running joke that I'm actually a hippie/hipster from Canada. FIRST of all, Washington is in America. I've never actually been to Canada, heard it's nice though, eh? SECOND of all, yeah, that's probably true. I think I'm turning into a hipster sort of thing. Ironic.

There you go! Now then, who should I nominate...I apologize if you have already gotten this award but here are some amazing bloggers that should be recognized more often! Nominees if you haven't already done so, you're supposed to write 5 facts and then nominate more people, but if you don't want to, you don't have to.

Allie

Asriel

Mae

OH MY GOSH I JUST FOUND ZACH BRAFF ON INSTAGRAM 

So sorry um to continue with my list

Sophia

That's all for today, folks! Hope you liked it! 

How to Be More Confident

As you may know, I am entering freshman year of high school next year. And, due to the school system, we have so many high schools that if you don't go to the one by your house, you won't know anybody, and I have made that decision.

So I have started looking at, you know, good ways to start off high school, that kind of thing, and I came across a TED Talk about confidence that I really enjoyed

If you don't have time to watch a lady talk about the science of being empowered for 18 minutes (look it up), here is a quick and concise version!

Basically, she said fake it till you make it! Definitely be yourself, but by acting confident, you will become more confident and even the stress hormones in your body will go down. If you literally act powerful, like spreading out, making yourself bigger. In the wild, leader or "alpha" animals stand taller as a way to intimidate people. That works for humans too!

It goes both ways. Sitting with your arms and legs crossed and your head down certainly doesn't help. Studies have shown when you sit like that the stress hormone levels rise.
 Start making it a habit. Stand taller. Uncross your your arms, it makes you seem more open. Smile. You'll seem more open and happy about what you are doing and people are more likely to talk to you.

Grand Prize Winner

I am so very very sorry I have been very busy, but here is the winner of my contest!
Her Majesty, Queen Nina Smith
drew this amazing artwork, which will be featured on my IG and Twitter

Nina's Artwork!

Thank you all for participating, please go see Nina's Instagram @corrupted.colours

And I will see you all later!

LIFE OF A BAD BLOGGER

WARNING!!!RANT AHEAD!!!

Alright, so it's 10:15 PM at this moment and I really want to be a good blogger. I know I kind of can't be because that's what this is about, but I can try right?

I'm hoping that naming my struggles by titling something that can potentially be seen by pretty much anyone, anywhere in the world, maybe I will get some help.
     
Ok, I have gotten a little help, by a few people. I made a button, blogged for almost nineteen days straight.
But I'm thinking that's not enough. After I publish every post, I go on a hunt for blogs like mine that might be interested in helping me out. I've been counting them too! About.....hmm I'd say zero. Now this is mostly my fault, but a little bit was the Internet. Before I started this whole hootenanny I did some research. Because this, my friends, would finally be the one. The famous one. People other than my best friend and Grandma would read. And all the big bloggers told me this,

Brenna, you have to be original. Nobody wants to read what they have already read. 

        And well, I suck at that. I guess this is kind of original, because nobody else blogs about how to Keep Calm and Lead On  but...please excuse me for a moment of self-realization.

Every body does this. Every single person does this, but in their own heads. I'm sorry for boring you all. All the time with this whole thing. I need a lot a lot of help. Maybe a co-owner, who only blogs on Thursdays? Or a prompt writer? Does anybody want a job? I'll make a team? Sorry, the title and URL are already set, but I could really use a Layout and Design person.
Ok, sorry, not recruiting, I just really like this hobby, and I feel like I was into it!-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

For nineteen days! But then I lost it and it won't come back. Has anyone been in this place before? I really want to get back into this and I don't know how. What can I do to write original topics?

Funny story, I actually found a prompt writer, it was an online generator. You put in key words, of like what your blog is about, themes, ideas, whatever. And it takes your words, and puts them in a list  of titles like this---

• 14 Things to Know about _________
• How To: _______
• A Study on __________

Yeah, it's pretty great. Anyway, I really do need some help. Thanks. If you read through this whole thing, or cheated to see how it would end, I've cooled off now.
Also, I get it. It's a hard knock life, and we I better make this floor shine like the top o' the Chrysler building before my backside does. Got any superb cleaning ideas?

KEEP CALM AND LEAD ON

Ok, I know, this is kind of strange for just a second post but this is what was on my mind, don't judge :P
Once upon a time, Brenna was eating lunch with some girls at school, who she wasn't really friends with, more of just acquaintances, and they asked her questions, like if she was scared to curse, or if she was a goody two shoes and so on. That inspired todays post about being a leader or supporter not a people pleaser! Everybody has different beliefs and world views so it isn't necessary that you agree with what I believe, but hopefully what my message is. I think it is important to stand up for what you believe in, and not give into peer pressure or anything like that. Blah blah blah, we've all been to that leadership conference. Now I'm not saying to shrug that off or anything  because it is a lesson we all have to learn. Like in the Lego Movie, nobody respected Emmet because he wasn't himself, he was whatever all the other townspeople were. He simply lived up to the expectation and stopped there. Practically anybody can do that, but it isn't a very good way to live (as seen on TV). And I know, a lot of people are born people-pleasers who just want to make everyone happy, but sadly that never works, because a lot of people's expectations are unrealistic and you get so tired of trying to please them that you get really depressed because you can't. I hope nobody has to live like that. Don't think I'm saying that you should never make anyone happy, that's totally different! Anyways, being a leader, or a supporter is being bold about what you believe in. People respect you for that. Just remember, being bold is not offending other people or forcing them to believe what you do.
"A leader is able to help followers to act for a certain goal that represent the values and the motivations--the wants and needs, the aspirations and expectations--of both leaders and followers."
- James MacGregor Burns


So next time you disagree with something, don't just give in, stand up for your opinions and hopefully do what's right.
Sorry that sounded like an episode of Veggie Tales (which I love anyway) but seriously, as you've most likely seen somewhere on social media, YOU WERE BORN ORIGINAL, DON'T DIE A COPY. Ah yes, I forgot to mention. Being a leader does not mean you will have servants working for you. Nooo way. It's hard, and sacrifice is vital to this job. I hope I didn't scare you :P But be prepared!!! Love you and thanks for your time <3